“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor.
For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to his who is alone when he falls, for he has not one to help him up.” – Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
CS Lewis puts it this way: “One knows nobody so well as one’s fellow. Every step of the common journey tests his metal; and the tests are fully understood, because we are undergoing them ourselves …You will not find the warrior, the poet, the philosopher, or the Christian by staring in his eyes, better fight beside him, read with him, argue with him pray with him.”
These words by CS Lewis are insightful because it is in the push, pull and stress of life’s battles that we discover a true brother, a real friend. We all need a real brother, a man who is walking the common journey of marriage, family business, character and values. This should be a man who tests our metal and strengthens us in our callings. “Let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, nor forsaking the assembling ourselves together” (Hebrews 10:24-25).
If you have played a team sport such as football, baseball or basketball, can you imagine competing against another team by yourself? How long do you think you would last? You wouldn’t last, nor would anyone else, that is these sports are called “team” sports …it takes more than you to make a successful team.. Unfortunately a majority of men in our culture don’t think twice about walking into their day totally alone. Many of us do not really believe we are fighting a battle because we approach our day without preparation and walk arrogantly into our day alone! Regularly stepping into the “battlefield of life” without even a second thought of putting on the armor spoken of in Ephesians 6:10-20.
The armor described in Ephesians is necessary to protect us from the enemy’s flaming arrows. Arrows that are always targeted at our weaknesses …places where we are already vulnerable, such as sexual temptation, anger, or a bad attitude to name a few. Yet the enemy is slick, always out to prove that we are weak and powerless and that we can’t handle it! And you know what, if you remain alone …chances are you have not grown up enough to realize that it’s impossible to finish life well by yourself! The good news in all of this is that it’s never too late, with God and a true friend or two we have an excellent opportunity to defeat the enemy and finish life well!
In reality the Lord has given you everything you need to handle the enemy’s attacks and finish well ….you just need to swallow your pride and engage God and others … ask for help!
If you are going it alone …how’s it working out for you? Are you ready for a course correction?