June 18, 2012

It’s no secret that porn has become a major problem in our culture…

and I’m not just talking about from a Christian perspective.

Many studies have been published that find watching porn causes problems with intimacy between mates, false expectations for sex life and an insatiable appetite for something new different and extraordinary that simply doesn’t exist. (This is a blog post not a dissertation so if you don’t believe me just google the problem of porn… careful though!) Pornography has become an easy thing to get addicted to and like all addictions hard to break away. I recently watched a TED talk that described the issue as a new kind of addiction. This is an addiction needing new and different instead of chasing the same original high with more; i.e. heroin and other drugs. The man in the talk suggested we had a problem, a major problem and it was up to us to come up with the solution. (Watch the talk http://www.ted.com/talks/zimchallenge.html)

I do have a solution and it may sound real simple but often complexity brings confusion… the solution?


I’m not saying that if you give your life to Jesus you won’t have a porn problem anymore but what I am saying is that unbelief in the Gospel is the real root issue. God created a wonderful thing called sex as an expression of Love and intimacy in marriage, to bring forth fruit and populate the world with people that bear His image and have a relationship with Him and to have fun. There are whole books written on the subject so I won’t go deeper into that but I will recommend reading Timothy Keller’s book The Meaning of Marriage. Back to the root problem, if I believe the fullness of the Gospel… that there is a God who is good and who loves me beyond my understanding, then doing anything in my sex life that is contrary to His revealed will for a sexual relationship is unbelief. I don’t believe He is good and His ways for sex are good instead, I believe that watching a video, masturbating to images in my head or on screen, and a host of other deviations from His plan, are better and more satisfying. If this is you, and I confess it’s me at times, we need to repent of unbelief.

*God is good so I don’t have to look elsewhere for satisfaction and neither do you!

*Special thanks to Tim Chester and Steve Timmis’ fabulous book You Can Change that first exposed me to the 4G’s, of which one is God is good so I don’t have to look elsewhere.

– Article contributed by Lanny O’Steen, Director of Young Men’s Teams for the Master’s Men ministry.